Forcing Pieces of the Puzzle

Listen up!

I gotta keep this brief!

🗣STOP FORCING THE PIECES OF THE PUZZLE!

This is for both birth workers and birthing persons.

You’re not supposed to work with everyone.

For birth workers: There’s nothing wrong with having passion for this work. There’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for every single birthing person you encounter but you are NOT supposed to work with everyone. Sometimes personality don’t mesh and that’s okay. Use your discernment. If something doesn’t feel right in the consultation or the conversation feels forced, 🗣ISSA NO! Communicate your approach to this work. If you have boundaries, set them and stand on them. If you’re not a coddler, say that. Don’t play yourself.

For birthing persons: There’s nothing wrong with communicating your expectations in the consultation. If you’re dependent, say that. If you need constant reassurance and affirmation, say that. Figure out your support language (a lot like your love language) and be comfortable with communicating it. Also, figure out your learning style. Don’t have folks spending time in your space teaching you stuff in a way that does not work according to your learning style. Because you’re wasting their time and your money by not receiving the information the way you need to.

Bottom Line: Neither party can force the pieces of the puzzle. The labor and birthing space is far too sacred to have someone in the space you don’t fully trust or to be in a space where you aren’t fully trusted. Don’t force it!

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